Queen Margherita in Magnolia is the kind of neighborhood place where everybody knows your name.
It's also a restaurant where workers take pride in their pizza-making. The Caputo flour, silk to the touch, is imported from Italy. Pies are carefully handcrafted, dispatched to the wood-burning oven, and then pulled after quick-cooking.
There are many varieties on the menu. Recently, I sampled the Queen Margherita, simple yet elegant with its buffalo mozzarella, San Marzano tomato sauce, fresh basil, and extra-virgin olive oil. The Puttanesca pleased me with its briny and spicy flavors from capers, olives, and chili flakes. There's even a dessert Pizza di Nutella with a little salt spiking the chocolate hazelnut spread. Most intriguing, though, was the Dattero, delicious with its dates, gorgonzola, prosciutto crudo, fresh mozzarella, and a drizzle of balsamic reduction.
So what does Queen Margherita's dattero pizza teach us about sex?It's all about finding the delight of dates.
Maybe you've had your share of bacon-wrapped dates, but never dates on a pizza. Traditionalists and others may dread the thought, but if you have an open mind, you just might enjoy the dates' contribution to the overall sweetness, saltiness, and richness of each slice you try.
Sexually speaking, many singles look at dates with dread. Questions like "What will we do?" and "What will we say?" and "How will the date end?" naturally run through the mind when dating. I suggest having an open mind and simply look forward to the potential fun of dating. Three simple steps:
1. Enjoy the time.
On dates, do what you love, and avoid what you don't love. Of course, be open to new adventures (maybe a chance to check something off your bucket list?), but if you absolutely detest salsa dancing or sailboarding, why do it on a date? Your companion will surely detect your negative energy. But if you both love wine-tasting or walking, go, and you'll be in your element. Even if you don't find your love interest, hopefully you'll still have fun.
2. Enjoy the person.
Don't be judgmental; don't judge a book by its cover. Sure, first impressions count, but go deeper by asking good questions and getting to know your date's personality and passions. You might find friendship...or even more.
3. Enjoy the process.
It's just a date. Loosen up and laugh. If you're preoccupied about how the date will end and whether there will be another date, you're living in the future instead of enjoying the present. Dating's like sex: Sometimes we're too goal-oriented. Men, especially, are often easily aroused and socialized to run the bases, seeing how far we can get. Once we get to home plate, we forget the ecstasy of the steps along the way--for example, of being "stranded" at first base with endless sessions of kissing, wondering when we'll get to second, but enjoying every minute of it.
Keep expectations in check. You never know when they'll be surpassed!
Queen Margherita exceeded my expectations, and might just be a good place to have a first date. It's a friendly restaurant, and pizza's pretty cheap as a first "investment." Sit at the counter and watch the magic of pizza-making. Banter with the pizza chef (see how your date interacts with others, and not just you), who might even give you a feel of the flour, sensual for playing. See how well you negotiate your pizza order, including preference for toppings (and the connection to sex play). And, hey, it's Italian food--coupled with a nice red wine, you've got the ingredients for a romantic date.