If so, Dr. Ian Kerner lists a whole bunch of them for you today on CNN.com. And before you scoff that you don't need a reason to get down, did you know that approximately 40 million Americans are are stuck in sexless marriages? (FYI, "sexless" translates to less than ten times a year, so if you haven't gotten laid since last May, count yourself among them.) And that's not even counting the unsexed singles out there. I once had a dry spell that stretched two entire years and it was the longest 735 days, 12 hours and 14 minutes of my life.
Unlike other shrinks who hem and haw when asked how often a couple should be hooking up, Dr. Kerner believes the magical number to be at least once a week. And while I'm with him on this, I know that sometimes that's easier said than done. Couples fall into ruts--dry, barren ruts--that can be difficult to climb back out of. Between work, life, boredom and a million other factors, it's sometimes easier to find a reason not to have sex. But here are a couple of the good Doc's reasons you should:
Sex rejuvenates you, relieves stress, boosts immunity, releases feel-good chemicals called endorphins, and--in men--improves prostate health.
A healthy sex life may even make you a superstar at the office: Recent research by biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D,. suggests that people who enjoy regular sex may be more successful at work, possibly because sex can increase confidence and increase self-esteem
Kerner also gives some tips on how to better get in the mood. For example, get your ass to the gym and quit eating like a pig. Unplug your damn computer and stop it with the internet porn 24/7. Give each other a hug every once in a while and try to minimize the amount of stress in your life. Is that so hard?
I plan on following almost all of these suggestions tonight. (Except for the internet porn because Tommy Pistol, I just can't quit you.)
So whether it's you, your partner, or hell, even that cute bartender who needs a reason to make the beast with two backs, you might want to print out a copy of Kerner's story. Stick it on the refrigerator, email it to your spouse, text it to a friend or print it on a t-shirt.