Even if you’re willfully single, it’s hard not to feel bitter during the expectation- and commercial-plagued weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, aka the Super Bowl of Love. Not everyone can wallow in chocolates and roses. So Bellevue’s trendy new martini bar Stir is hosting a “Dare to Be Dateless” weekend full of un-Valentine’s Day events, including speed dating and dancing tonight, and a ladies-only passion party on Saturday (plus more dancing). Reserved for the actual day of dread is karaoke operating under a “no love songs” policy. (May I suggest Chumbawamba’s “Tubthumping?) Don’t worry if you need some liquid courage before taking your angst out on the mic. Stir is serving $6 drink specials—panty droppers and one-night stands—all weekend long. Because, well, it’s not like you’re committed. (21 and over.) ERIKA HOBART

Fri., Feb. 12, 8 p.m.; Feb. 13-14, 2010