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Aaron 06/30/2008 7:39:00 PM
Nice comment Ivy. Figured you would like this article seeing the way you write...very good
http://nostoppingplace.blogspot.com/
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Catherine 05/17/2008 7:09:00 AM
WOW. Look it's a whole lot of people with absolutely NO sense of humor. This article, as well as the book is meant to be funny. And you know what? IT IS. Now pull the sticks out of your arses and go have some bad dates!
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Tara 05/15/2008 8:56:00 PM
I think this artical is awesome! You did a great job. Anyone that doesnt agree is most likely because they are or date one of those kind of people. You hit it all on the nose. Everyone is just not confident to say it. Your a great columnist, now that I found you I will continue reading all your articals! Keep it coming!!
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Ivy 04/14/2008 6:58:00 AM
Great job. This is wonderful sociology!! I love that you acknowledge and understand the importance of experience in the real-world sense, not just the "i've been giving advice for years and heard other people on the phone giving advice so I know what im doing." That accessibility, and your humor, is what has made me a fan of yours. This is a topic where it's very easy to be crude or rude to people who write in with problems. You are understanding but not too much so- (you know how they say being too nice to a depressive, for instance, is bad for them? I think advice is like that too. While easy and tempting to indulge a person in crisis by telling he/she what they want to hear, it's obviously not in anyones best interest.) I love how you are not afraid to use your personal anecdotes to help others in distress. By personal anecdotes I mean emotional bruises that you've gotten while out researching your subject.
I can't wait to read the whole thing. I especially love what you said in here about those nice guys that are so full of their own "negatives-" so busy pointing out the flaws in other people compared to themselves- they are boring and just as you said.. so bitter it's palpable. I'm paraphrasing.
I'd love to hear more about why not to date your crush... and I'm curious what you have to say about power plays and dating your teacher. You mention dating a therapist, but not a college prof. It happens.. Lisa Zeidner, the author of the sexy/edgy book Layover, has an interesting essay regarding that topic.. I'm also curious what you have to say about how dating rituals have changed from the past, and how to make your way through this new chaos.
I'm sure I'll probably find plenty of answers to these questions in your book.
Dont listen to those people bitching about.. psorisodijg? They are just looking for something that you werent politically correct enough on, and they'll jump on anything.
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Chuckles 01/15/2008 9:06:00 AM
You should all re-read Jim's first post, he's got it spot on about why she described the person as she did. If you asshats gave two shits about dategirl being a bigot and not your own self loathing then you'd have stuck up for the un-employed (they can't help it right? it's the economy!), pedophiles (daddy touched me growing up!), and un-employed pedophiles (where to start?) as well. Any of these things could happen based on the hand you're dealt in life just like your precious genetics. So, kindly shut up, all of you. No one cares that you have psoriasis except for you... and especially not dategirl, with all you retards sending this link to all your psoriasis buddies they probably got tons of views on this story which probably got dategirl a raise, so nice try on getting her fired.
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Jim 01/14/2008 3:51:00 AM
Melinda: "...you sound like the guy that says 'One of my friends is Black'..."
Awww. I humbly apologize for not having been blessed with psoriasis myself, and for knowing (and liking) someone who was. Feel better?
Probably not. I did, of course, read the other posts - that's how I was able to comment on what they said - and saw that several of the posters allege themselves to be in relationships. But that supports my point, not yours: That you're getting bent out of shape over a non-issue. If McGuire really represents a universal prejudice, none of you would be dating or married, now would you?
All I can figure is that a bunch of people here really want to date McGuire, and are looking for excuses as to why they're not.
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Brent 01/13/2008 7:58:00 AM
may "seattle weekly" lay you off and you find yourself in a room with "normal people" and you with psoriasis over you entire body, especially your face... and never find a human being that would date you! with the luck that it sounds like you have, you just might one day, and for the sake of humanity, and raising a child with your genes, maybe you could surgically have your vagina sealed shut!!!
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Melinda 01/12/2008 8:24:00 AM
Jim wrote:
(long tantrum snipped)
"Before you ask, no, I don't have psoriasis. One of my good friends does. When he let it go untreated, it was pretty disgusting. But because he didn't dwell on it, he had a number of friends; his other qualities overcame it. Perhaps because he didn't make it the dark depressing obsessive center of his life, he's now happily married."
You sound like the person that says "One of my friends is Black". That's real deep! None of us are writing stories in the newspaper and making fun of someone's illness. It is not "whining" to let a person know they are out of line. And if you would have bothered to read the responses, you would of found out that many of us are happily married or in happy relationships.
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Jim 01/11/2008 10:38:00 PM
Let me guess what's happened here: one person with psoriasis read this, or just heard of it, and alerted all the other members of their support group to pile on in a continuous whine.
Sheesh, people, get over yourselves. Yes, psoriasis is an unfortunate illness, and no, you can't help having it, but jeez � you've got to admit, nobody can be expected to consider it a relationship plus. Haven't you considered that the most effective way to make it even less appealing is for you to wave your woes in everyone's faces? Every time someone turns you down for a date, do you give them a long pompous lecture on genetic skin conditions?
If you'll stop wailing long enough to actually read McGuire's column, you'll notice that she didn't actually call anyone with psoriasis an unemployed pervert (which you have clearly assumed below). That was just one characteristic, not necessarily connected to the others. Perhaps her rejection was predicated on the knowledge that she'd have to endure the Psoriasis Opera every time they had a tiff.
I'm not in any way connected with McGuire or her publication, by the way; I just took time to see what she really said before going into full howl mode.
Before you ask, no, I don't have psoriasis. One of my good friends does. When he let it go untreated, it was pretty disgusting. But because he didn't dwell on it, he had a number of friends; his other qualities overcame it. Perhaps because he didn't make it the dark depressing obsessive center of his life, he's now happily married.
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Paul 01/10/2008 7:12:00 PM
Dategirl,
Have you ever considered that maybe your failed relationships/sex life that seem to deem you qualified as a journalist came about because YOU are a judgmental know-it-all? Or perhaps your "varying degrees of success" have come about because your superficial attacks at others leave you alienated and alone? As a 24 year old Mechanical Engineering and military officer I can't say I've had the same troubles and would never have read your "article" if you hadn't lunged an unsolicited attack at a group of sufferers of a genetic skin disease; Psoriasis. As a sufferer myself I must say I am appalled by your putdown. I've got nothing nice to say so I'll end it with this: your a hell of a lot more likely to see this Psoriasis sufferer on the cover of a health and fitness magazine or Time than this women. The mirror on the wall is pretty good place to start if you seek reason to mute your criticisms of others.
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helen 01/08/2008 7:51:00 AM
I loved your new book synopsis, I think it's one of your better pieces of work. It's obvious to me that you spent alot of time crafting it. I found it
insightful and hilarious.
As for the psoriasis issue, nobody seemed to notice that you had the compassion to relate and value a guy despite several serious unsavory characteristics. Nobody is just one thing, as Chris Rock pointed out.I knew a welder at work w/ psoriasis and his charm won me over. It only looked like a bad sunburn after a while. I really enjoyed his company and his humor made the time fly. While looking back, plenty of "beautiful" people did nothing but get on my nerves. I can't wait to read your book. Take Good Care of Yourself.
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you should be ashamed of yours 01/07/2008 11:30:00 PM
I do believe you owe the millions of people with psoriasis a written apology for your derogatory comments. You obviously have no clue what you are talking about when you use this disease to be funny. There is NOT ONE THING funny about this disease and to use it as a put down is disgusting on your part.
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Katherine Tan 01/07/2008 10:08:00 AM
Having PSORIASIS doesn't make us less of a person. It actually brings PURE kindness and PURE happiness in our hearts... THE KIND OF PURENESS THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE and WILL NEVER HAVE as long as you continue publishing negative articles about people with PSORIASIS and even other chronic disease...
Just so you know, I am HAPPILY MARRIED and HAPPILY WORKING in a prestigious real estate development company who knows I have Psoriasis and yet treats me as a normal human being.
And most of all, having this chronic disease even makes us a better person than you do....
I wonder if you still sleep at night...
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Cristy 01/07/2008 9:06:00 AM
Psoriasis is genetic; people do not choose to have it. Your article is unsensitive and ignorant. Enlighten yourself by visiting psoriasis.org
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josef 01/07/2008 7:38:00 AM
It is really sad how you portrayed people with psoriasis. Sensitivity is not one of your virtues i guess.
We have suffered long enough because of such ridicules. Having psoriasis is not funny at all. Be grateful you do not have it. You do not have the right to make fun of our sufferings.
Oh by the way, I have psoriasis and living in a poor country-Philippines- which makes it even harder for me. But thanks, I try to create better lives for people with disabilities in this part of the globe.
Thanks and have a good day.
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Cassie 01/07/2008 4:52:00 AM
After 16 years of putting up with people like you, I am sick and tired. I have psoriasis. I'm 20 years old. How can anyone get away with being so rude? If you had substituted any other minority group, you'd be the unemployed loser. Chronic case of psoriasis is a bit redundant don't you think. Psoriasis is a genetic disease therefore...chronic. Maybe you should actually do research before you start writing. That's usually what most intelligent human beings do. If you're a published writer, one would assume that by now you would know that researching is important. At least try to be educate yourself before you make a complete jerk of yourself and put down an entire minority group.
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Karen 01/06/2008 8:22:00 PM
Quote:
I could be dropped into a room packed with nothing but perfectly sane men with jobs, and I would gravitate toward the one guy everyone else was trying to avoid: the unemployed know-it-all with the chronic case of psoriasis.
Unquote.
Well Judy, I just hope that guy would have the sense to run a mile if he saw such a thoughtless, insensitive, and ignorant woman coming his way!
Have a look on the National Psoriasis Foundation website and you'll see just how 'funny' and 'amusing' having psoriasis can be!
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Me 01/06/2008 9:44:00 AM
Poorly written article that seems an attempt to validate your depression by putting down others. To insult people with a chronic skin disorder, while at the same time reveling in what a mental mess you are is disturbing.
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Bill 01/06/2008 8:04:00 AM
I'm not sure if you meant it as a joke, but I really don't like how you characterize people with Psoriasis as less than desirable. I am 31, male, and was diagnosed with Psoriasis 4 years ago. Nobody in my family has ever had it, and no doctors know how you get it.
I am a normal person just like you. I have a loving family, a wonderful girlfriend, and I am successfully employed as an airline pilot. Someday you too may develop psoriasis, then you'll know what it feels like. Trust me, it's no fun.
I can't imagine why you would make fun of people with an illness they can't control, so please be more thoughtful with your words next time.
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Kevin 01/06/2008 5:27:00 AM
You wrote "the unemployed know-it-all with the chronic case of psoriasis and a highly unsavory yen for his little sister (in his defense, she was a half-sister", how dare you. Your attitude is appalling. Your comment is very offensive to those suffering from a horrible genetic skin disorder and you decide to poke fun at it. I�m sorry for anyone who takes advice from such a small minded and ignorant person.
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Melinda 01/06/2008 1:30:00 AM
How perverted for you to say that a person with Psoriasis is a pervert! Not only did you disrepect his illness, you disrespected his intelligence, and morality. You make it seem as though all people with Psoriasis are unworthy of dating! I see why you haven't gotten a decent date, it's because you don't have common decency. I have Psoriasis and I am married. I can tell from your article that you feel that people with Psoriasis don't need to have partners. Shame on you!
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Andrea 01/05/2008 9:06:00 PM
I'm really shocked that an advice column writer would perpetuate an ugly stereotype about people with psoriasis. http://www.psoriasis.org/home/
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disgusted 01/05/2008 2:24:00 AM
you should be ashamed of yourself and the fact that you are prejudice.
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Dan 01/05/2008 1:14:00 AM
I find your characterization of someone with psoriasis as an unemployed pedo. very offensive.Did your membership in the KKK run out and you decided to pick on another group of people with a disadvantage on this earth?I am speaking for the 7.5 million people in this country that have this crap.Thanks so much for putting that gem in your article,it's just what we needed.
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Carolyn 01/05/2008 12:25:00 AM
The unemployed know-it-all psoriasis victim is probably unemployed because psoriasis is a debilitating disease that affects the health and quality of life of millions of people in the US. It can onset at any age through no fault of their own, just the same as cancer or any other disease. Why would you add this insensitive, naive statement to this story? There is nothing funny about psoriasis.
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Marian 01/04/2008 10:10:00 PM
I find this article very unsensitive to those who have psoriasis. To say "I would gravitate toward the one guy everyone else was trying to avoid: the unemployed know-it-all with the chronic case of psoriasis" reinforces the tremendous mental anguish someone with psoriasis must face every day. I am disappointed and outraged that the Seattle Weekly would allow such a statement to be published. Had she said, "the unemployed know-it-all black man" you could bet your bottom dollar that it would never see the light of day. Making fun of someone with an uncurable illness should have gone the way of the horse and buggy. To still see it in this day and age just makes me sad for our society.
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